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Dear Charles —

My heartfelt thanks and sincere gratitude for all the wonderful, accurate and VERY insightful help you gave me today!!
It is such a relief to know that my beloved dogs Greta and Beo will be happier (as will I) if I can move past the sobbing/emotional wreck phase of my grief over losing Greta and focus instead on the joyful life Greta, Beo and I shared — and the many joyous times that are still to come for Beo and me.  And hearing from Stella — what an incredible, unexpected treat! She was a breathtakingly beautiful long-haired golden girl (and she knew it), prone to greeting people by clamping her large soft mouth around their wrists. Of course a simple lift of her noise always released her from the target’s arm, but usually not before causing a fair amount of consternation on behalf of the “clampee.”
Thanks too for your generous and wise guidance re my daughter and also for the AMAZING insight re the “pine-like” scent that has dogged me for so long — your “tip” finally allowed me to put a “Swedish great-grandfather” connection on that perplexing smell and the very logical (at least once you know where to look) reason behind it!
You are indeed as wonderful as all the lovely press I’ve read about you — and clearly as caring as you are talented. Thank you thank you thank you for your help in bringing me some deeply longed-for peace as I walk through the difficult loss of my sweet little Greta. I do know one day all my animals and I will again be together, but having someone who can actually talk with and understand them confirm that fact — and confirm that all my past companions are now together, even beyond the grave — makes the losses of this short life on earth so very much easier to bear ….
With Great Gratitude,
Blaine

Recently while working with a particularly difficult animal, it became apparent to me that my client had perhaps an unrealistic expectation when it came to what an animal communicator can and cannot do. This posting will address what you can expect and what you should not expect from a professional pet psychic, (animal communicator.)

Animal communicators are not a cure all, just as a therapist or counselor can communicate with the person having problems – it is dependent upon the party who needs help, accepting the help and communicating themselves. Just because we can talk with our children does not mean that they mind us, the same is true of our animal companions.

Most offending behaviors that animals display can be lumped into one of two categories. The first, acting out due to anger or frustration about their needs not being met. Secondly, a health problem that has not been properly identified and addressed. Sure, there are other reasons to act out, jealously, past trauma, a tension filled environment and other possible triggers, however the majority of “bad” behaviors often are triggered by the first two causes that were mentioned.

Let’s address the first one, your animals needs are not being met. Causes can include such issues as the following:

  1. Lack of stimulation, such as play time and outside time.
  2. A shortage of access to clean food and water.
  3. Improper grooming and or filthy living quarters.
  4. Too hot or too cold of an environment.
  5. Overloaded litter boxes.
  6. Strong smells in their environment.
  7. The introduction of additional animals and or family members which upset the balance of attention in the home.

Most of the above mentioned issues are fairly obvious and easy to rectify, however with the busy lives that us humans lead, sometimes our animal companions are accidently neglected. When an animal has a problem such as described above, they are limited in what they can do to get our attention. Frequently when an animal is upset, they will exhibit a “bad” behavior, such as tearing up furniture, urinating and defecating in unacceptable locations, barking uncontrollably or worse, becoming aggressive. Unfortunately us humans frequently address the problem behavior, without understanding the cause. When this approach is employed it only causes more frustration and potential anger and frustration in the animal, leading to the situation becoming worse.

The second major issue, undiagnosed health issues also can become a battle within the home. Consider the following issues and how difficult they may be for the animal to relay to us.

  1. Loss of hearing and or loss of sight.
  2. Toothache, difficulty eating and or loss of weight along with a irritable disposition.
  3. Muscle and or tendon damage, such as sprains, pulls and tears.
  4. Stomach ulcers, various cancers and other chronic conditions.
  5. Urinary infections, bladder stones, and such.
  6. Arthritis, and joint pain.
  7. Skin irritations.
  8. Allergies and food sensitivities.
  9. Mental issues, (dementia, chemical imbalances etc.)

With the above issues and many not listed, it may or may not be obvious to us as to what the problem is. In the case of a urinary infection, the animal may begin urinating outside of the litter box which could also indicate that the animal is upset with us over a need not being met. In the case of a urinary infection, we are lucky in that it is easy to diagnose by either ourselves or with a quick trip to the vet, and treatment is fairly straightforward. With such an issue as stomach ulcers, various cancers, as well as muscular and or neurological conditions, and so forth, diagnoses may be a bit more problematic. This is when a battery of tests is often embarked upon, frequently with each test costing more than the last one and all in an effort to pinpoint the cause of the problems being exhibited, by the process of elimination.

If your animal has a condition that is difficult to identify and is causing either you or the animal great difficulties either mentally or physically, and you are going through test after test or being presented a whole litany of tests and paths to follow by your animals medical care provider, a reputable animal communicator may be very beneficial in that they can help to pinpoint what tests should be performed. That being said, I would like to point out several things with regard to animal communicators, but first I would like to provide a definition of what an animal communicator or pet psychic is, as some of them call themselves.

Essentially an animal communicator is one who claims the following:

  1. That they have the ability to communicate with your animals.
  2. That the communication will be received via telepathy and that the animal need not be present.
  3. That this communication will be very detailed and include specific details that only you and your animal would know.
  4. That the communication can take place over any distance.
  5. That the communication with your animal is not dependent upon them being living, in that they can speak with those who have passed, as well as the living.

As a former skeptic of such abilities, I will outline how one can easily provide a convincing reading that is completely fraudulent with only a few pieces of information to go on.

  • Too often I am asked if I need to see a photograph of the animal that they wish to communicate with. If you claim to be able to communicate with the animal telepathically, why do you need a picture?
  • With a photograph the “animal communicator” now knows the physical appearance of the animal and clues to their age. Perhaps there is additional information about you and or the animal contained within the photo, such as a gathering with family or your animal’s sleeping quarters, toys etc.
  • Many “pet psychics” request the age of your animal and perhaps even their birthdate.
  • With knowledge of the breed, it is pretty easy to simply provide details that are consistent with qualities and or issues associated with that particular type of animal. Of course, once again, if you can talk telepathically with animals, why do you need to ask the animals age, when they can simply tell you how old they are.
  • Some “animal communicators” will even ask for details regarding the animal and it’s health. Once again, why provide details, when this person claims to communicate with animals, many are well intentioned, yet are hacks at it.
  • Simply being able to recognize or hear a language does not make us literate and or fluent in it.

With one possessing the name, age, physical description and or breed, perhaps even details regarding medical history and often times much more, it is easy to reinforce some common issues with the particular breed and situation as well as providing flattery regarding you and your animal – after all who would not want to hear pleasing platitudes regarding their animal, provided that it is the truth of course. How does one know if what the animal communicator is saying is genuine? After all with the wealth of information you provided, “in order to establish a connection” as so many animal communicators/pet psychics claim, how does one know what to believe and what not to believe?

I suggest applying the following to your search for a reputable animal communicator/pet psychic:

  • Do not provide details regarding your animal/s and or situation in your initial contact with a prospective animal communicator. Instead one should simply state their purpose for contact, such as wishing to contact a living animal and one that has passed as well. Please don’t include their breeds, ages, pictures or anything else in your email or phone call.
  • Once you have an appointment set up, resist the urge to send pictures to the animal communicator – we all love our fur babies, but the photos are not needed and can only hurt the opportunity to receive a quality reading. Also hold back on providing back story, or anything else for that matter. Instead you should sit down and write down the names of those you wish to contact, living and or deceased and then write down your questions for them. The further in advance that you do this, the easier the reading is. Writing down your questions in advance provides the animals an opportunity to formulate well thought out responses to your questions.

What to expect during a reading:

  1. At the start of the reading, do not volunteer information, simply state your primary objective and the name and species of the animal you wish to connect with. While the name is required, the species is not – it simply makes it much easier for the animal communicator to establish a connection as quickly as possible.
  2. Within a very short period of time, usually seconds, a description should begin coming through. Details to expect would be among the following:
  3. Physical appearance, such as  size, coloring, type of coat and in some cases the name of the breed.
  4. Frequently unusual markings, scars, past injuries, if passed – the way they passed, or what claimed their life will come through.
  5. Favorite toys, games, foods, treats, activities, memories and more will very often come through.
  6. Your animals age, (bearing in mind that the gestation period counts towards overall age) perhaps even specific ages or dates in respect to you and your relationship with the animal, such as how long they have lived with you.
  7. Bear in mind that not all animals communicate the same, just as not all humans have the ability to sing well.
  8. With a good connection, the communication should be very “conversational” and not in the least bit cryptic.
  9. If your animal has passed, it is very common for something that has happened recently to you since their passing being brought up, frequently even details from earlier during the day you receive the reading will be brought forth.
  10. Occasionally details that you are unable to confirm right away will come through, simply make a note of them and later they will either come to pass or make sense to you.

Additional details to consider regarding the relationship between your animal, yourself and the animal communicator:

  • The animal knows what their person is doing – your animals are dialed into you nearly 24/7 on a telepathic level. This applies to those in spirit as well.
  • If an animal’s person has contacted an animal communicator, trust me – the animal is all ears. Your animal companions are listening, responding to your inquires and or comments is up to them.
  • So much of telepathic communication is dependent upon what the intent is, so when the animal and the pet psychic look to connect the connection is usually secured within seconds. This takes place with the animal in the same room as the animal communicator, or over vast distances such as thousands of miles away.
  • The animal does not need to be present with their person.
  • The animal must be awake, if the animal has passed, they no longer sleep and therefore we do not have to worry about if they are awake or not.

Is it possible that there will be times when your animal will not communicate?

The answer is a simple yes, for many reasons they may not respond, including but not limited to the following:

  1. If the relationship between the two of you was not very good, they may hold a grudge and not respond – though they can still hear you.
  2. If the animal is asleep they will usually not connect.
  3. When distracted by a demanding environment, such as outrunning a predator, it is possible that they will be too busy to connect.
  4. Animals, like us tend to focus on what is physically in front of them and when in unfamiliar environments they tend to be distracted easily.
  5. Animals that have passed tend to be very easy to connect with, and frequently their communication is improved upon their passing (in several instances where I have communicated with the animal well before passing and some time after passing.) The exception occasionally seems to be roughly a two week window following their passing, free of their physical restrictions and able to reunite with loved ones in spirit, they may take off for a while. Also on occasion they are still “getting their bearings” and after a few days or so will be in a much better position to communicate.

Most of the time your animal will communicate readily, in detail with a reputable animal communicator. There are of course exceptions to the rule, and hopefully there is now a greater understanding of what to expect and what not to expect when consulting an animal communicator/pet psychic.

A few additional words of wisdom:

  • Obsessive compulsive behaviors are difficult to correct and while an animal communicator may help, there certainly is no guarantee. On the other hand if you need to check in with your animal and find out how they feel about your bringing another animal into the home or end of life questions and such, an good animal communicator is nearly guaranteed to bring forward meaningful answers.
  • In my experience the best animal communicators/pet psychics do not avoid missing and or lost animal cases and will readily take them on.
  • During the first part of the reading you should ask “control” questions. These are questions that are designed to confirm a connection to the animal that you wish to connect with. Early on it is best to ask questions of a simply yes or no nature in their reply. This is very important when doing a reading in person and the animal is either present, or a photograph and or description has already been provided. Remember, the best pet psychics do not require a photograph in order to secure a telepathic connection with your animal.
  • The more time that is spent with the animal, frequently the better the communication becomes and often times you will find that absolutely any questions are fair game, regardless of the type of response required.
  • Never consult with an animal communicator or pet psychic who does not offer refunds for a failure to connect and bear in mind that more expensive, does not always mean better.
  • Most importantly remember that a reputable animal communicator  is relay messages from your animals to you.
  • Your animal communicator most likely is not a trained behaviorist, doctor, trainer or vet. An animal communicator is simply a translator and advisor, by utilizing their gifts you can experience a stronger bond, connection and a deeper level of understanding and respect.
  • If for some reason your animal points you in the wrong direction or simply says something to get you off their back, remember that they most likely learned such behaviors from you. One unusual phenomena that occurs in a few older female dogs that have older women for their caretakers is that frequently the dogs will fudge on their age by a few years, kind of like you saying that you are still celebrating your 39th birthday, for the 5th time.

Charles Peden has been featured in numerous publications, heard on several radio stations and featured on TV. Recently while tuning into NPR you may have hear him on “On Point” you may have seen him briefly on Nightline or featured on the front page of the Amador Ledger Dispatch newspaper and it’s sister publication, the midweek Gold Mine.

Upcoming events include a speaking engagement at the Plymouth – Foothills Rotary Club and an appearance at this years annual fundraiser for the North Bay Humane Society, called Barkitecture, come see him at the Voter Preview Party – his fourth year in a row providing his services to the North Bay Humane Society, formally the Benicia/Vallejo Humane Society.

To learn more about the author of this posting, visit www.charlespeden.com and while there check out the “testimonials” page as well as the “media” page where you can listen to him channeling living and deceased animals while in the studios of various radio stations.

 

Recently I was invited by Macy’s department stores to provide my services as a psychic medium at a special function of theirs. Macy’s was hosting an in-store after hours special spa event with makeovers, perfume and a little something extra for the mind, body and soul … a psychic reading. Customers who spent a certain minimum were offered the opportunity to get in line for a quick five to seven minute reading with me.

Many of those who came to see me had never been to a psychic before and had no idea what the procedure was. One of the most common questions I fielded was “what do you see around me?” Now, I could have tried to “simply see what is around them” but, that can take some time … and unless a particular spirit is jumping up and down to get my attention, they typically do not just simply have something around them. Trust me, if there is a message for you from spirit, I will do my best to relay it to you and they will do their best to get my attention.

When you come to see a psychic, usually (if the person has sought me out) they have a specific intent, mission … piece of information that they are attempting to connect with. There are many reasons for visiting a psychic such as:

  • A death in the family – looking for closure.
  • A desire to communicate with ones animals, past or present.
  • Seeking information concerning their life path and or career.
  • Looking for answers in respect to a relationship.
  • Seeking clarity and understanding associated with their own “psychic” experiences.
  • Looking for additional confirmation regarding events in your life.
  • A desire to review your past lives.
  • To remove or understand an unknown entity/ghost from your home or place of business.
  • An opportunity to connect with plant life and more …
  • Questions concerning an unsolved crime or missing person.
  • Locating a missing animal such as a dog or cat.
  • Garnering additional information so as to make a better informed decision regarding business.
  • Developing your own intuitive/psychic abilities.
  • Simply because it can be fun.
  • A desire to connect with ascended masters and or famous people from the past.
  • Locating missing objects such as a cellphone, keys, stolen car etc.
  • To gain a better understanding of matters related to health and well being.
  • For a better understanding of the universe and how we are all connected.
  • To reconnect with a long lost loved one, living or past.

Occasionally people will ask questions of psychics that if the psychic is ethical and any good at what they do – they will either ignore, redirect or avoid these types of questions:

  • What are the winning lottery numbers?
  • Any other type of gambling or betting related question, such as who will win the game?
  • Frequently when faced with major decisions such as purchasing/selling a home or stocks, the psychic may be only able to offer additional insights and not answer the question directly for you.
  • To seek out information concerning a person that they are not connected to such as a fan wishing to obtain information on a celebrity whom they are obsessed with … yes it’s happened.
  • Desiring to “make/force” someone to love you or do something else that is not in their nature and of their own free will.
  • Placing “spells or curses” on anyone or making and marketing “potions and or magic candles.” Nothing good can come from these things.
  • When will I or someone else die? Please don’t ask, trust me … you do not want to know, nor should you.

Questions that are difficult to work with, but do not fall into the above categories would be as follows:

  • What do you see around me?
  • When and will I meet the man/woman of my dreams?
  • Am I going to be a success?

As I am asked the above three questions with great frequency I will address each one individually.

The “What do you see around me?” question is simply not needed. If there is a spirit who wishes to relay a message to you, it will happen.

“When will I meet the man/woman of my dreams/” is one that is a bit trickier. If I were to tell you the time, date and location where you are going to meet them as well as what they look like etc., I would be shortchanging the natural process. Say you show up at the location on the date and time I mention and you spot the individual I have told you about, your expectations, nerves and such would most likely cause you to blow it. It is important that connecting with someone take place organically. When you are looking for a new relationship the first thing to ask yourself, is would you date yourself? Is there something about you that needs to be worked on such as your attitude, your expectations, or??? Potential mates are turned off by insecurity, depression, unhappiness, poor health and are attracted to confidence,  vitality, happiness and a zest for life. When looking to start a new relationship, ask yourself … are you happy with yourself? If not … work on your shortcomings so that you are happy with yourself and you will find that attracting a mate is much easier.

It is key that when thinking about the type of person that you wish to connect with that you use positive affirmations as opposed to negative ones. Do not ask the universe to send someone who does not physically abuse you as by emphasizing the abuse, you will drawn it towards you … like attracts like. When thinking of your ideal mate, say such things as they are compassionate, respectful, loving, tender and caring. Emphasize the qualities that you are attracted to and avoid mentioning the traits that you wish to avoid.

The “Am I going to be a success?” question is tricky too. I had an associate of mine who asked me if their business was going to be a success this year. Now I could tell them that “yes, it will do very well” to which they may respond to by not making an effort and expecting business to grow on it’s own. The converse is that if I tell you that the business will not do well, you will not make an effort since you believe that nothing that you do will make a difference. The correct way to ask this question is to say, “What can I do to ensure that this year is a successful one for my business. That is a question that I can work with.

Now, back to the whole thing about how asking a psychic a question is like searching for information via Google. When you do a Google search, your query is typically taken very literally and as the saying goes with computers, “garbage in garbage out.” meaning that your results are only as good as your query. If you seek information concerning specific areas of your life, it is easier if you gentle nudge me in that direction and then allow me to bring forward details confirming a connection with the information that you seek.

For example: If you wish to ask about your career, do not say “I work at company X and I want to know if I should take the transfer to city X?” By revealing the company you work at and the location that you may be transferring to, you have taken some of the tools out of my psychic tool chest. In order to answer your question and know that I am getting the right information it is helpful if I describe to you what it is that you do for a living and the location that the company is considering moving you to. So it works far better if you ask the question in this format: “I am curious as to if I should take the transfer that my job is offering me?” I will then describe your work to you as well as the location they are considering moving you to. By doing this, you know that I am tapping into the right information.

When asking to connect with animal or human loved ones in spirit, please remember that anyone you are connected to is fair game. Frequently the answers to your questions will come through when looking to connect with those you wish to query. For example: Recently while being interviewed for a news article the reporter asked me to connect with one of her animals that is still living with her. Instead I saw an animal that she was connected to, but had not asked about. As soon as I began to describe what I saw, she told me that it was not who she was looking to connect with. I then asked her if this was the first animal that she had as a child when she was between 6-7 and she immediately confirmed it. I then told her that all of her animals from childhood to present were going to connect with her before we would be able to connect with her current animal. Fifteen minutes later we had connected with five animals from her past to present. Once while being asked to connect with someone’s father in spirit, I made contact and began to describe who I saw, the features I described at first matched with their father, however the other details coming through did not. I then asked who the second person I was seeing was and the person I was doing the reading for said that it was their fathers brother. I then asked what their question for their father was and they said that they had wanted to ask if their father had met up with his brother on the other side. Obviously the answer was yes, as they were coming through simultaneously.

Bottom line is this:

  1. Psychics are not here to decide things for you, but to simply provide additional information and insights into your problems.
  2. We all have our own psychic abilities that we can tap into … frequently people visit a psychic to simply hear an additional confirmation of something that they already know.
  3. We are not here to make people do something that they normally would not do, such as “casting” love spells and the like.
  4. We are not all knowing and all seeing … we are people too, just like you.
  5. When we see a calamity or issue in the future … remember that you exercise free will and in many cases you have the ability to change the outcome.
  6. The future is not written in stone.
  7. It is possible that we may not be able to assist with some some of your concerns … after all when taking a test at school, do you get to use the teachers edition in order to steal the answers? Sometimes you simply have to “bite the bullet” and figure things out for yourself.
  8. There is no such thing as cursed money that needs to be cleansed … “magic” potions, get rich quick schemes, lottery numbers and gambling advice have no business mixing with a genuine and ethical psychic.
  9. If someone claims to talk to animals, they really do not need a photo to connect, as if they are communicating with an animal, that animal can describe what they look like to the psychic telepathically.
  10. Use common sense and good judgment. Beware of “free” readings where they tell you that you have an issue that is only going to be resolved through your bank account being utilized.
  11. Just like any other profession out there, there are frauds and con artist in the psychic profession, if something does not feel right, trust your instincts and avoid the person.

A general observation:

It seems to me that those who seek out “psychic abilities – powers” are not always in it for the right reasons. In my experience these abilities are not right for everyone, some may try and abuse them while others simply cannot handle the fact that once the abilities are developed that their own life is not always their own. Spirits can stop by unannounced, whenever they feel like it, both friendly ones and (if you have not protected yourself) not so friendly spirits. If you get into this type of work simply to make money and become famous, you are doing it for the wrong reasons and will eventually fail. Many of the best psychics out there came into their abilities later in life after they had already spent some time living a “normal” life. This seems to make them more grounded and respectful of their abilities as opposed to someone who desperately is trying to develop them for their own selfish reasons. Please note that I am not trying to dissuade people from developing their abilities and utilizing them, I am simply making a casual observation.

I was successful in life in many ways before reconnecting with my psychic abilities that I had suppressed as a child. As a family man with two wonderful daughters and a loving wife who had built our own business “By the Bay Treasures” (since sold off to another party) and having co-founded the “North American Sea Glass Association.” I was content and very happy with my life prior to reconnecting with my abilities. Frankly I would most likely still be running both the association and By the Bay Treasures were it not for my life suddenly changing in 2006 when the ghost of a young murder victim appeared to me and asked for help. Very soon after that I found that it was nearly impossible to run my business. I was conducting guided kayaking and beach combing tours and during these tours I would end up channeling loved ones and animals for my clients instead of focusing exclusively on sea glass. When I would answer the phone taking orders for drill bits and sea glass as well as booking tours, I would “see” things and occasionally would mention them to the potential customer. I recall the day that I decided that I had to sell my business and focus on my psychic abilities full time. A customer had called to order drill bits and during the call I saw a two year old girl that told me that she had been a still born and that she would come back to the women again and she would have another opportunity to give birth to her. As I described what I saw, the woman confirmed a female still born from two years prior and then the line went dead … I suppose that she was not ready to talk about it yet. This type of intrusion into my business became to common that I had no choice but to focus full time on my unique abilities as a psychic medium and animal communicator.

To learn more about Psychic Medium and Animal Communicator Charles Peden visit www.charlespeden.com or call 925-360-7469.

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